WE -The Brat … our wants -and- our needs

Have a toddler at home ?..Ever watched a toddler in a supermarket?. The demure ones that toes along with the parents is a treat to watch… and sometimes we often remark “Cho..chweeet” and move on with our purchase. However, how about those “brats” who would just not listen to their parents and continues on their tantrum-spree over something at the display window? We have seen parents who give an awkward smile to the fellow-shoppers and continue to ignore the tantrum, or indulge in futile attempt to reason with the “brat” ( we all know it never works) and eventually giving in to the “brat’s” tantrum….. Now.. YOU HOLD THIS SCENE IN YOUR MIND

If you think this post is about “how parents should react to a brat’s tantrum”, then you are seriously mistaken. Here the child desires for something that he wants … ( He sees in the display , sees everyone else has it, and “just wants it”).. there is no reason behind “want”. However “Mommy knows best”, and she would not get it unless the child “needs it”. What would you do when your toddler throws a tantrum?

Sometimes, aren’t we all behaving like brats? Always yelling (although not as loud as the toddler).. “I want this”, “I want that”, “He has got a promotion, why not me”, … sounds familiar… aren’t these the tantrums we throw while we are so called “praying”… (..now .. don’t tell me that you are always praying for world-peace… we all pray for world-peace and in the well being of everyone else… but that is just the starter… ) what follows is most definitely the tantrum of our wants , desires and “I wish”

I donot intend to impart valuable insights into the power of prayer or trusting in your abilities or building and acting on your level of self confidence. I presume we all are capable of doing that ourselves.. (I hate it when someone “advices” me on….”blah..blab…you have to belive in yourself…blah…blah…)…. This is not something that can be taught… It has to come from within..

Sometimes, “God” ( if you may allow me refer to the supreme force) responds to our wishes (read prayers) just like the mother at the supermarket. I have come to believe that he would not grant me my wish unless I need it. So I have begun to reformat my prayer to “Grant me the desire to wish for what I need… rather than.. to wish for what I want”… this way… I am happy as I know I will be getting what I want”… and perhaps “HE is happy as he is letting me to have things that I need”… what do think ?… win – win situation.. eh ??

Pal, this is just me thinking out loud here, wondering did we ever grow-up from the “brat-stage-of-life”. Surely, we have matured by the number of years… but is this maturity akin to wine or waste ( mature waste is also useful as compost… are we ??? )

4 Replies to “WE -The Brat … our wants -and- our needs”

  1. Deepa,

    Looks like you are doing some research on psychology – may be a fusion of psychology and metaphysics..

    Till the grave we carry the child ego-state though we too develop adult and parent ego-states in the course of our lives. The magnitude of these may differ with people.

    Yes. Existence always grants us what we need.

    A lucid post!

  2. “Grown-up/High Funda Tantrums” is very common..Have read buddha’s saying “I want to get away with all my desires”.I argued with appa that this was “his” desire..same is the case with fellow human beings.
    Grown-up/Toddler you can never stop asking for more 🙂 The only difference is that the want for something varies as per age!

    Ofcourse Everyone want to live life the easy way :))

    P.S: Just a small suggestion.Could you please remove “Word Verification” and comment page popping up to a new page.It is little difficult to comment when would like to highlight from the post.

  3. Hi shiva

    lol… no I am not doing any reserch.. well.. ‘idle mind is a devil’s workshop’.. that wht my grandad used to say… with so much time and so little to do.. guess i am driting with my thoughts

    Thanks for the appreciation Ö

  4. Ramya—
    //want for something varies as per age!//#

    Couldnt agree more… yes.. i too remeber ‘Budhha’s wish’… strange..eh… a wish to have no wish..

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