Clash between the titans

We have seen fights and fistfights (and bullfights – occasionally on TV). Definitely not interested in the regular ones that we watch in the movies. There is a special kind of fight sequence we all are well aware of. This happens everyday at every house irrespective of the social status.

It is not uncommon to see a teenager and parents arguing with one another. Both seem to be correct in their own perspective. The problem seems to be in convincing the other person to see the respective point of view. The bottom-line is “WHY DONOT YOU LISTEN TO WHAT I HAVE TO SAY”.

Both imagine that LISTENING = ACCEPTING, which is where the battle starts and ends in a war of words followed by stomping of the foot or closing the door with a loud thud. By the end of the day it’s the hormones that take all the blame.

How many of us had seriously given a thought about “Hearing & Listening”.We HEAR a song to relax our nerves, but we LISTEN to the same song trying to memorize its lyrics and identify the nuances of the music involved.

Any teenager will declare that the parents never take effort to understand their feelings or thoughts, and vice versa. Both are individuals with intelligence and intellect with the ability to reason things out.

The only reason that I personally feel that they are not able to convey one-another’s thought process is due to the difference in the activity level. On one hand the teenagers are hyperactive, thinking in the speed of light, whereas their parents have mellowed down a bit and desperately need the intermittent much-needed-slow-down-phase.

Teenagers don’t need advice; they will learn it as they grow. But as parents you can suggest solution to their problem instead of yelling “If you had did ( or did not do) what I said, this problem would not have arisen in the first place”.

Parents see themselves in their children. Hence its only natural &instinctive for them to correct you even before you think of something that might go wrong. This is defentely far fetched, but atlest do make an attempt towards trying to understand.

Finally-“You are a teenager with raging hormones and they are parents with raging temper”.

If you LISTEN, then they will ACCEPT, is something that both should try to remember